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Self Care is Hard BUT Worth it…

Self Care is Hard BUT Worth it...
“Self-care is giving the world the best of you, instead of what’s left of you.”

Self care is something I really struggle with. I struggle with putting myself first and allowing myself time to experience a transformation. Can you relate? You can read about that here and here. Self care is hard but worth it, you’re worth it.

I’ve been well intentioned to start working out and eating right for a year now. At one point last year I decided that it was just not going to happen. Whhhhat? I got so busy with life and my 4 kids that I pushed myself to the side. My kids, husband and home became my main priority. I wasn’t on my list. How sad is that? If the quote, “We can only love others as much as we love ourselves” (Brene Brown) is true then man, I must really stink.

I recently sat down and evaluated what makes me happy? And what would make me happier? Naturally paying off debt would make me happier but, what would make me HAPPY, HAPPY? Being proud of myself. I would love to lose weight this would make me very happy. Sometimes I am really too hard on myself and I notice that if I don’t live up to my standards (a clean home, well dressed children, laundry complete, etc.) I get really upset with myself. If I don’t keep up with my blog I just become overwhelmed and shut down completely. Lately I’ve really thrive on a really predictable routine.

Self Care is Hard BUT Worth it...

Sometimes the small things are the big things… 

I started working out yesterday. We were supposed to start on Monday however by the time we got home from grocery shopping and putting away the food my husband and I looked at each other and agreed – we ordered pizza. Deep breath *grace Amanda* What the heck is a Monday and why do I always think change only happens when we begin on a Monday? After we ate pizza I meal prepped eggs, rice, shredded chicken, homemade greek yogurt, etc. I packed Brian’s lunchbox and sent him off with 21 day fix approved foods.

I am struggling to practice imperfect progress… but, today I’m choosing to recognize that even though we didn’t start on Monday we were well prepared for Tuesday morning. Here I am writing this blog having completed Days 1-2 of the 21 Day Fix. This time I opted to do Turbo Fire instead of another round of the 21 Day Fix or Fix extreme workouts.

Vulnerability Is Beautiful

The way I see it vulnerability isn’t a weakness. Sometimes I have to have it all together but honestly, my story is just me a sometimes put together, sometimes really not put together mess. I’m ok with this. Today I’m choosing happiness because I know that it’s both my choice and a privilege. When I’m mean to myself I’m not happy. And I don’t enjoy that feeling.

Let’s Be Real

Your greatest asset is yourself. Simply put there is no other “Amanda” and that’s my superpower. The same thing for you – you are pretty awesome and by being you only good things will come. Remember to extend grace to yourself. True beauty shows through when someone is unafraid to be themselves. Be confident in who you are because you are pretty great. No matter what be true to yourself. Instead of waiting to see if you measure up, start letting everyone else know that they don’t have to (Melissa Camara Wilkins)… you don’t have to measure up to anyone!

YOU are good enough.

I’ve started this week. I know it’s not always easy to start because I am struggling with my time management this week. There’s just not enough of me to get everything done. This week I’m putting systems in place to make my days easier. I have enlisted the help of my family to help free up time so that I can sit and write a blog post GUILT FREE because it’s something I enjoy. Currently my son is drying the dishes that my husband washed. My daughter’s are cleaning up the bottom floor of the house with Lukey. Right now everything is alright in my world. Sometimes the small things really are the big things you know?

Promise Me You will Make YOU a Priority

It feels good. Gosh if I’ve learned anything it’s giving myself grace and not expecting perfection but if I’m honest it’s been a fight every single day. It’s hard. Over the next 21 days I hope to share with you guys my journey. I know if you have been following my blog for any time you know working out is something that I struggle with. I’m really the all or nothing type so it’s either I’m all in or I’m really not. That mindset has gotten me no where. Making myself a priority is truly my goal this year. If I had to bet on one person I’d risk all my money on me. Self care is hard work but worth it for sure.

Self Care is Hard BUT Worth it...

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    Karla Cruzado | The Wise Lark
    February 22, 2018 at 7:20 pm

    Thank you for this Amanda! I signed up for gym last week and I haven’t been as consistent as I imagined to be, but that’s okay. I went more times this week than the last, which is an improvement and that’s enough. Your blog post is timely. <3 <3 <3

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      graceinspiredhome
      February 23, 2018 at 11:48 am

      🙂 Thanks for writing Karla! That whole imperfect progress and giving ourselves grace thing is hard! Way to go though look at you! 🙂

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    deriasworld.blogspot.com
    February 23, 2018 at 2:22 am

    Great post dear ?

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    Kim
    February 23, 2018 at 11:44 am

    I can relate to this so closely! Everyone in my household would benefit if I could take some steps towards self care. Thank you for the motivating post!!

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      graceinspiredhome
      February 23, 2018 at 11:46 am

      Right?! Our people need us to take care of ourselves better. I always dread working out but boy do I feel good afterwards! It’s that whole talking myself in to working out and eating healthy that takes the work… once I get started I’m usually good!

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    Mrs. SBF
    February 23, 2018 at 1:42 pm

    Your honesty is awesome. The fact that you know all of this and acknowledge it and where you’re at on your journey is proof that you’re getting there! 🙂

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    Jan
    February 23, 2018 at 2:22 pm

    I wish I had learned about self care decades ago.

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    Ashley Griffin
    February 23, 2018 at 6:04 pm

    Thank you, thank you, thank you! You are the only you in the whole wide world. That is your superpower! Thank you for this post and showing the importance of loving yourself!!

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    Mandy
    February 23, 2018 at 6:18 pm

    Hi Amanda – great post. We are definitely too hard on ourselves sometimes. We have to focus on doing our best. I’m in an all female band and we have written some songs around this theme. Not to sound too self-promotey – but I think you might like our song “Enough” that’s about being enough just the way you are. We waste too much time on comparing our selves and worrying about what we’re “supposed to be” instead of loving who we ARE! We also have a song called “Grace” that you might like. We are on Spotify, Itunes, YouTube Etc. The band is called The Mrs. I hope you will check it out 🙂

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    Raina
    February 23, 2018 at 8:08 pm

    Yes! As a mom with a newer baby it’s so hard to do but I make sure to make time for me. So important!

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    Sheree
    February 23, 2018 at 8:56 pm

    Grace! Yes! I forget about this sometimes too! When I find myself exhausted I know I need self-care before I take it out on the kids. I let the TV babysit, and I go take a bath and read. It is a great way for me to unwind, collect myself, and be ready to face what life serves for the rest of the day.

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    Joelyne
    February 24, 2018 at 2:00 am

    I am really hard on myself, and really need to be more kind to myself. I love the idea of treating ourselves like we would a child. Good habits like going to sleep early, and eating well are so important. Thanks for a lovely post! ?

    Joelyne xo

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