Girl Wash Your Face Personal Application
At the end of January I started a book challenge on GoodReads. You can read more about the challenge here. One of my favorite books so far to date (and I’m on book #19!) was Rachel Hollis book, “Girl Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are so You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be.” <–affiliate link. I keep coming back to the premise behind her book, “stop believing lies” and the power of self care and our mindset. How both the way we talk to ourself and the things we say impact what we believe about ourselves. I read this book in February and I’m STILL thinking about it… Maybe I should re-read it…
Insecurity REALLY Stinks, Can I get an AMEN here?!?
If I’m being honest, this is not something I love sharing with others. Insecurity really stinks. This is the first time I’ve done this kind of thing… you know be completely vulnerable on an open source where God only knows who reads my blog?! Hi mom? Hi Ash? ha. Anyways, here’s an excerpt (from inside the book flap!) that I read when I picked the book up and knew I HAD to read it:
“Do you ever suspect that everyone else has life figured out and you don’t have a clue? If so, Rachel Hollis has something to tell you: That’s a lie.”
Rachel Hollis in her book strongly suggested writing out different lies that we have subscribed to in our own personal lives. Usually, I will maybe sit and think on the subjects as suggested by authors but this one I just couldn’t shake. In her book Rachel organized her chapters based on different lies that she believes or believed at one point or another in her own personal life for example (there’s 10 others!):
Something else will make me happy
I’ll start tomorrow
I’m not good enough
I’m better than you
Loving him is enough for me
No is the final answer
I’m bad at sex
I don’t know how to be a mom
I’m not a good mom
I should be further along by now
What Lies Have You Believed?
The importance of writing down and evaluating lies that you have personally believed for so long is so important. I realized that through this process I can be so incredibly mean to myself! I’m sharing with you from a place of humility and realness my list so that maybe you will be encouraged in writing your list. I have wrote my list intentionally with truth splattered all over it. While you read this list, take note of lies that you have personally subscribed to in your own life.
Lies I’ve Personally Subscribed to:
The Lie: “I’m too fat.”
The Lie: “I’m not a good mother.”
The Lie: “I’m not a good writer.”
The Lie: “I must filter my speech.”
The Lie: “I don’t deserve to be happy.”
The Lie: “I’m not very smart.”
The Lie: “I’m not worthy of love.”
The Lie: “I’m not a good wife.”
The Lie: “I’m not allowed to speak my mind.”
The Lie: “I deserve to feel disconnected.”
The Lie: “I’ll start tomorrow…”
The Lie: “I’m a mess, my kids are a mess, my house is a mess, everything is a mess…”
The Lie: “I’m not good enough.”
I could go on and on here honestly… and I do not believe that I’m alone in this respect. So my question to you is this, what lies have you personally subscribed to? Grab a piece of paper and a pen and just write down what comes to mind. I started off with a small list of 3 things and was surprised to look up and read back these 13 little (BIG) lies that I have believed for far to long. Consider also lies that others have spoken over your life..
*Keep in mind the definition of a lie according to dictionary.com: “a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive; an intentional untruth; a falsehood.”
You know what stinks so much about lies? How powerful they are. We give lies power when we believe them. When we are so used to being mean to ourselves that we don’t even realize the mistruth(s) that we are speaking over ourselves. “You’re ugly, you’re fat, you’re a bad mommy, you’re not good enough…” Rachel in her book really says it best,
“These lies are dangerous and devastating to ones sense of worth and our ability to function. The most sinister thing about them is that we rarely hear them at all. We rarely hear the lies we’ve created about ourselves because they’ve been playing so loudly in our ears for so long that they’ve become white noise.”
It’s incredibly important to identify the lies that you’ve accepted over your lives. I know it’s a lot to take in but think about it. We have a choice to either believe the lie(s) or learn, grow and push ourselves to be the best version of ourselves. With all the love in the world I say this to both you and myself, “stop with the nonsense.” Take control of the lies and the ridiculous noise you’ve been listening to for far to long and look to the future. The future is full of so many possibilities. Grace upon grace.
A Healthy Mind Rebukes Lies
Self care requires us to be present and aware of the things that are currently holding us back. In order to change our mindset we must become aware and take charge of the lies we have been telling ourselves. Lies that others have spoken over our lives. By doing so, these very lies become powerless. A healthy mindset is an essential component of self care.